Finding Equilibrium

Judge not, and you'll not be judged.

This is all too familiar to all of you, I believe. But how much could one believe in it? I think about it at times.

Since I am an anonymous blogger, I reckon it should be safe for me to tell you this.
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While composing my previous post just a couple of hours ago, I received a call from a dear old friend whom I shall call Irina.

For some reason, she was fuming on the other end of the line. During the previous night, she'd met up with another girl Catherine*, who is currently attending the same college as Irina, only in different courses. From what Irina narrated, it pretty much seems this old classmate's determined to be Irina's nightmare.
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It became clear that Catherine had by chance, found out that Irina was involved with a girl some time ago.

During the conversation, Catherine had asked if Irina still contacts the aforementioned girl now. She answered, truthfully, no. And she did mention that she contacts me frequently.

"By phone?" Catherine asked again. Irina said yes, that she calls me at times.

"Oh well. In that case, you could go after this one instead."

The last statement angered Irina, because Catherine had not only insulted her, but also me- a close friend of hers as well. Besides, throughout the conversation, Catherine had rained humiliations on her, one after another.

And now I think about how quick most people out there are when it comes down to judgements. For instance, if a straight-A high school student had been discovered to be pregnant, the first thing that comes to people's mind is- Oh, she's actually been a slut all these while. For all we know, she could have been raped.

In Catherine's head, it doesn't matter what a good friend Irina had been to her. It doesn't matter that everyone knows that she is a good person. All she cares to know is she was involved with some girl.

Judge not, and you'll not be judged. Do you still buy that?

Mind your own business, whoever said that might as well have meant to say this instead. But it's neither realistic nor practical.

First, at the end of the day, we're all watched. We're all seen. We're all heard. We're all judged. It doesn't matter that you don't give a damn about the people around you. For almost everything you do and say, they're observing, consciously or subconsciously. And then, they process the information in their minds. It's inevitable.

Second, we'll all have to use our judgements. We judge if some people are worth spending quality time with. We judge if a situation is safe. We judge if somebody's action is justified or not.

I guess like many other things, it comes down to finding the equilibrium. You don't want an overdose. At the same time, you don't want an underdosage either.

And really, I wish some people would stop taking things too seriously. Everybody is born or made in different ways. You could be identical twins brought up under the same roof, but in one form or another, there are always variations.

This is one of the things that makes the world less monotonous.